June 2012
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May 2012
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Kelseyisms Reblog: Dear Beloved,
kelseyisms:
Dear Beloved,
My joy can never be taken from you. You can only lose it if you give it away.
Don’t give it away.
You have the hope of the world. Never let a circumstance change that. With my life and with my death, I have defeated all of the sin and circumstances that could imprison you. That should give you more freedom and more joy than you could ever imagine. Remember that, and...
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Learning to love myself
Anonymous asked: How do I learn to love myself?
Unka Glen answered: You will love yourself when you see yourself the way God sees you.
This isn’t something you learn, this is something you accept. In order to accept the truth you have to reject the lies that you’ve bought into. Here are a few you may be familiar with.
— You aren’t good enough. One of the ways that...
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The Forgiveness Onion
mindoncoffee asked: Hi Unka Glen. Help me to understand what true forgiveness is. Is it when you can manage to not be angry at someone anymore? I know that being a Christian is living life with a forgiving heart but executing that plan ain’t easy. What I do know so far is that true forgiveness is not about forgetting what happened or pretending that nothing happened. But what exactly is...
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“This hard circumstance is like an intense heat, and you will soon discover that...”
– Unka Glen (via denisecua)
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Sex, pre and post marital showdown
Anonymous asked: What’s your take on premarital sex?
Unka Glen answered: It’s not as good as post-marital sex.
The truth is, I had a number of “wild years” in my life, and had more backslides than I care to count. And I lost my virginity in high school, long before I got married. Did it feel good? Yes, like they say about pizza— good pizza is amazing, bad pizza...
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“You are a world changer. A blog post or an encouraging email may not feel like...”
– Unka Glen (unkaglen.tumblr.com)
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Porn, and feeling bad about the wrong thing
Anonymous asked: Right now, I really feel down in the dumps. Recently, I’ve been watching porn. I always stop for a while, then head back to the habit of doing it again. It really sucks after every time where I say I want to stop, and yet I’m continuing in this vicious cycle.
Could you help me out here, uncle? You’re freaking awesome, for all the replies you’ve given to all the people out...
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“We’re all saying don’t settle in relationships, but I’m going to take it...”
– Glen Fitzjerrell (Unka Glen) on episode 16 of the Say That podcast
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Responding to disrespect... or not.
Anonymous asked: I work at my mom’s job, and there are these older men who often look at me in the wrong way, and discuss things between each other. I ignore them, but it makes me mad because my mom is there, and they know I’m her daughter. I have nothing against physical attraction, but what angers me is the lack of respect. Is it ok to feel angry? How should a woman react in such...
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Lust gone out of control, or a lack of wisdom?
Anonymous asked: Hello, Unka Glen. Basically, I’ve been dating this guy for nearly half a year now, and things are going really well…kindof. My current boyfriend is such a wonderful man. He’s smart, and funny, and he loves God. He’s my best friend and I love him dearly. But..the problem is we have gone farther than I ever intended to go, and deeply regret it. (Note: we have not gone “all the...
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Dating and bitter betrayal
Anonymous asked: My best friend is this girl that I’ve grown up with. We’re both strong Christians, and we go to the same church. In the summer of last year we told each other we had feelings for each other. We read the Word together, prayed, watched sermons, talked about them, pretty much everything you can do for two young Christians dating. She recently went away on a sports...
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“When I was a kid, I had a big dog. Whenever I came home, he would pounce on me...”
– Unka Glen (unkaglen.tumblr.com)
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Love, romance, and bad doctrine
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years and we are both Christians. One thing that breaks my heart is that he doesn’t seem to understand grace, that Jesus died for our sins and that we no longer have to be afraid of God’s punishment. He doesn’t seem to have a relationship with Jesus in the way that I do. He goes to church every week and prays as well, but I don’t...
Lee Younger reblog: Don't Think God Thinks Like...
leeyounger:
Hey brothers and sisters, here’s a quick thought for today:
I was in the Anderson County Jailhouse this morning with my friend Pottsy. We were having a Bible study with the guys in Unit 2 and I asked them this question: “When you fall into some sin again for the thousandth time or the ten-thousandth time, what do you think about yourself?” The guys all said things like, “I think I’m...
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The opinions of people, and other worthless things
iwastoldbyjesusallwaswell asked: How do I stop being so concerned with what others say and think of me? I know that the only affirmation or criticism that really matters is that of Christ, but I seem to take a whole lot of stock in that of people, especially people whose opinions should not matter.
Unka Glen answered: Did you ever notice, that people who care a lot about being liked, are...
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Bored in church... can you imagine?
Anonymous asked: Hello! so I’m a teen that was basically born in the church and I’ve gotten involved in lots of ministry at a young age. I love Jesus. He’s amazing! The thing is recently, I’ve been really bored in church. It’s so frustrating because I love learning about the Bible and worshiping and the whole thing…but I’ve just gotten bored having to...
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“God doesn’t love you when you do something special,
You are made...”
– Unka Glen (unkaglen.tumblr.com)
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Dealing with boyfriends and boy friends
wakeup-sleeper asked: Hey Unka Glen! I’ve been dating this incredible guy for a few months now and things have been great for us. He’s preparing to leave for seminary in a few weeks, so our time together has been pretty limited. Recently, a friend (We’ll call him Ed) has been asking about hanging out since I have some free time on my hands. While we never dated, Ed and I had a...
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Getting over a break-up
ashpashbash asked: Hey Unka Glen! :) So I’ve forgiven my ex, and we kinda sorta decided to be friends (I guess :/) but I feel like I’m still hurting as much as I did a month ago (it’s been 2 months). Honestly, I feel like a fool because I haven’t moved on yet, but I’ve prayed, I’ve encouraged myself with scripture, but I feel the same: broken, hurt and...
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Tips for knowing how to be
kbgrumbles asked: Unka Glen, you rawk. Just a heads up, in case you didn’t know. I was wondering if you had any tips on spiritual leadership; I’ve been elected Chaplain of my sorority for the upcoming year and while I’m super excited about it, I’m also super scared to drop the ball. Thanks! (:
Unka Glen answered: Ya know, I always suspected, but it’s still good...
“One of the first things we tell people in any kind of counseling situation is to...”
– Glen Fitzjerrell (aka Unka Glen) on episode 15 of the Say That podcast (via thebridgechicago)
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The benefits of long distance romance
Anonymous asked: Okay, so I have this awesome boyfriend and he loves God and treats me great. But, he lives literally on the other side of the nation. We work really hard at talking things out and being respectful and loving towards one another. As I said, we live way far apart and it has made it harder lately. We both want our relationship to grow and move forward but it is almost impossible to...
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“God has a way of taking that one thing that you think will make you happy, and...”
– Glen Fitzjerrell (aka Unka Glen) on episode 15 of Say That
Prayer Request Saturday
prayerishere asked: I was wondering if you could let your followers know that my blog is dedicated to prayer. People can post their prayer requests anon or not and I’ll pray for them. Thank you so much! Keep up the awesome posts by the way, they’ve helped a lot!
Anonymous asked: I am struggling a lot right now emotionally and mentally and it is really starting to take its toll. I am worrying...
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Dating: it's like riding a bike
myprayerintheharvest asked: I guess I get concerned about dating because I’ve never dated anyone or even had any boy like me! haha Am I overreacting? I’m about to graduate high school, and I don’t even know if I’m in the right place to have a relationship. The idea of being in a relationship kind of scares me. How do I know if I’m ready, if there was a potential...
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You could be prideful, and not even know it!
sparks-and-embers asked: Unka Glen! Hi! To make a long story short, I tend to have a problem with pride. Do you have any advice for forming habits of giving God the glory, and of putting others first?
Unka Glen answered: Well dang, how prideful could you be if you’re humble enough to admit that you have a problem with it? And for that matter, most people who “give God glory”...
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Addiction, OCD, Cutting, and Bad Habits
myalternativetofacebook asked: How do you beat a real funky habit Unka Glen? I like biting my nails on occasions, but the real funky one is this thing I’ve been doing since I was a kid; and man, even as a grown up 23 year old man, this funky habit resurfaces on occasions. Pretty much how it goes down is I’m a thumb sucker as well as a hair puller (or trichotillomania, but you can...
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Repressing romance because of the odds
Anonymous asked: Thanks Uncle Glen for being so open all the time, it’s rare :) Do you think it’s right to repress romantic feelings because of the high percentage of high school relationships that don’t last?
Unka Glen answered: In a word: no. It’s not okay to repress romantic feelings because of the odds. There’s only one way to be romantic: all the way....
“Navigating your walk by any emotion is not going to work, emotions aren’t stable...”
– Glen Fitzjerrell (aka Unka Glen) on the Say That podcast
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(via thebridgechicago)
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Believing in myself... or not.
Anonymous asked: I have something I’m struggling with and I have been for some time now. I trust others very easily (initially) and am very loving and accepting. However, I have a hard time trusting that people like me, care about me, want to be around me and be my friend. I know that I shouldn’t be so caught up in what others think or feel about me, but I know that God made us...
“I believe in Jesus. That means I believe less and less in money, good looks,...”
– Lee Younger
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Unity… and super hard core Jesus lovin'
haleylou asked: Hello! First of all, wanted to say I love all your responses and your podcasts! Second, I have been struggling with my boyfriend. We are in a super committed relationship, but when we first started dating I wasn’t into super hard core Jesus lovin’ like I am now. I went from being a lukewarm child of God, to being a missionary on the streets. Anyway, he believes in God...
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Living with something you don't deserve
Anonymous asked: Hi unka glen. My issue is ive been distancing myself from God, and i know that in this time of “winter” that has come to my life, i must cling to Him and no one else, but how can i ask forgiveness, come back to Him, and get the prodigal daughter treatment when all i think is “I dont deserve this” and His mercy is so overwhelming that its hard to believe,...
Prayer Request Saturday
sighsofrelief asks: Please check out a series I’m starting called “Healing”, it’s designed to help sexual abuse survivors. Check it out here.
PRAISE REPORTS!
— Hired Pete and Tasha Lawson to work part-time helping us with our prison ministry (seen here talking to one of the guys in front of our BRIDGE worship service).
— And I give thanks for these people...
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Dating, with whipped cream and chocolate
Anonymous asked: I’ve lately prayed about having a relationship, and I think the Lord is saying to me it’s time. So I’ve had this girl in my field of vision for a while, and have gotten to know her fairly well, perhaps a little less so about her Christian maturity. I’ve being praying for opportunities to just hang, but more generally, let the Lord’s will be acted...
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Salvation: Faith and Works
hisquietvoice asked: Hi Unka Glen, as a Christian, how sure are we of being with God when we die? I mean, I get confused between two sides. Firstly, that all you need to do is believe and you will be saved and then there’s the other side of view, you need to have “faith with works” and what kind of works does the Bible really refer to? Thanks Unka Glen!
Unka Glen...
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Being lied to about your sin
Anonymous asked: Hi Unka Glen, I am struggling wth anxiety, homosexuality and pornography. I’ve come to the conclusion that I love the world more than I love God. I sell myself short. One day I’m on “fire” for the Lord and the next day I just don’t care. I want to desperately cry out to him but I can’t. I get so discouraged and unmotivated to read the Bible. I...
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Getting the cold shoulder in church
Anonymous asked: What should I do when Christians seem to dislike me? It’s not anything so drastic, it’s more like a coldness in their manner towards me. It’s hard not to feel bitter when I’m clearly making an effort to know them better. And I just can’t ignore them even if I wanted to. I want us to be one big happy family of loving fellowship. Should I just pray...
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Is there a spark in this romance or not?
abigailace asked: I’ve been dating this guy for a month. I enjoy spending time with him, and he’s great, but I just don’t feel that SPARK, ya know? And I don’t know if it’s just too early or if I’m overanalyzing or what, but I’m not sure if he’s right for me. The thing is, he’s convinced that I am THE girl of his dreams. He’s told me...
April 2012
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Dating: bold, passionate, and prayerful.
Anonymous asked: There’s this guy that I have been hanging out with a lot lately, and I think he likes me. Actually, I know he likes me, and I think he’s going to do something about it… and I’m not exactly sure how I feel about that. I really do like him, but I don’t want to get involved with someone if I don’t think they’re right for me. I guess...
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Salt and light: rotten meat and lies about...
serenescreams asked: Hey Unka Glen, first of all: you’re awesome. Anyways, what exactly does it mean to be the salt and light of the world?
Unka Glen answered: First of all, no you’re awesome. Second of all, good question.
The Bible mentions light in several places as a metaphor for the process of revealing the truth and giving guidance. Today we might say, “let me shed...
“The worst thing you can do is just repress stuff down and say, ‘well I’m...”
– Glen Fitzjerrell (aka Unka Glen) on episode 13 of the Say That podcast
Get it free on iTunes
(via thebridgechicago)
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Guard your heart from receiving bad dating advice
ferguson19274 asked: I’ve heard the phrase “guard your heart” used a few times around my church, and the other day I realized that I don’t really know what it means. So far as I can guess, it has something to do with making sure your level of emotional attachment matches up with your level of commitment in the relationship, but I suspect there might be more. Your...
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Crash the gates!
chikes asked: Hi Unka, I’m one of the few Christian women I know who also unashamedly identifies as a feminist. I work at a safe house for exploited/trafficked women, and at a feminist organization that supports women experiencing violence in intimate relationships (i.e. domestic violence) and advocates to end violence against all women. I’m frustrated and I struggle a lot with...
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Consumed by thoughts of the opposite sex
notsuperman-walkalongsideme asked: Hey Unka Glen! Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us! My problem is this: I know (in my head at least!) that now is not the time for me to be in a relationship. I still have a lot of growing in God to do before I’m ready for that. But, there’s this guy at my church who I kinda have a thing for. And he’s on the worship team. And every time I...
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In love = Godly relationship + curled toes
Anonymous asked: What’s the difference between loving a woman and being in love with a woman?
Unka Glen answered: The Bible says there is romantic love, (which the Bible calls “eros”), and God’s love (which the Bible calls “agape”). For all too many people, when they say they’re “in love” they mean that they have eros, but not the agape....