March 2012
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“Oh how I wish you weren’t drawn to harsh teachings. I wish that being...”
– Unka Glen (unkaglen.tumblr.com)
February 2012
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When to talk about porn
jessierenee asked: I have a male acquaintance who I have known for a few months now. He professes to be Christian and even “walks the walk” in some areas, but he regularly makes extremely sexual remarks, talks about his favorite porn, and the like. He can be extremely kind when necessary, but this lust thing seems to be a huge boulder in his life. What is my role? I do not know if he...
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When your breakup is killing you
Anonymous asked: Hi Unka Glen. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 14 months. We planned on marrying each other. He was a great guy, or so I thought. Recently he admitted to me all his lies. His porn addiction, and him spending my money on porn. I could stick around and try to patch things up if it was porn, but the lying and him spending my money on it - I can’t. So we broke it off. How...
Jed Brewer Reblog: Can Sex Ever Be Special For Me?
jedbrewer:
save-me-and-forgive-me asked: Hi, Jed. I loved the blog “What’s So Great About Sex?” and just had to ask your opinion on something. Even after you’ve crossed the line of sex before marriage is it too late for it to be special between you and your future spouse? Or are all the goods just spoiled? Even if you marry a different person.
Jed Brewer replied:
Hey Amanda,
Glad you enjoyed...
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"I want to date you." That wasn't so hard was it?
saltandlightweare asked: Hey Unka Glen, I’m just wondering if there’s a difference to when someone of the opposite sex admires you, versus likes you. What is it? And how can you tell? It could be awkward when you mistake admiration for affection. Thanks in advance! You’re awesome!
Unka Glen answered: Thanks sista, and yeah, I would say that you could admire someone without...
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On being Godly student and professional
berkeleyreview asked: Hey Unk, I’m starting medical school this fall, and I have some questions moving forward: 1) I will have a job that is not straight-up ministry/missions. As a student now and physician later, what’s my role in the kingdom of God? 2) What’s a godly way to handle being in the top 1-2% of income? 3) Anxiety and stress, in school and on the job - how to work...
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Prayer Request Saturday
Anonymous asks us to pray for her classmate that may be contemplating suicide.
PRAISE REPORTS!
— To the awesome students of Wheaton College for your always warm reception and challenging questions. You guys rawk!
— And to these people for being a truly Godly source of encouragement to me this week, follow them if you’re looking for an encouraging word of your own:
Melissa...
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Pimpin' the Gospel message
smelltheraine asked: I have a problem that’s been bothering me. In my heart I know I believe in Christ. I go to church with my mom and am always touched by my pastor’s sermons and in these moments I feel that God is close. However, I’m a sophomore in college and I’ve lived a blessed and normal life without any sort of trauma/tragedy. In short, I’ve kind of...
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When the relationship with God has broken down
Anonymous asked: I’m in a bit of a fix lately. Long story short, I feel like I fell out of love with God. I was in a place where I needed him to come through for me, and he didn’t, then I got angry, then I got bitter, then I stopped talking with Him altogether. I know it’s the wrong thing to do- but it gave me a sense of confidence, and I feel like I’m truly finding...
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“You’ve got to learn to live with sin. You don’t have to like it,...”
– Unka Glen (unkaglen.tumblr.com)
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Goodbye "purity", and good riddance.
Anonymous asked: A little over a year ago, I was raped by a good friend who I thought was a Godly man. Now I’m not sure how to tell a future boyfriend about the loss of my purity, or how it will affect our relationship. How would I go about talking to him? Sexual purity has always been a big deal to me, and I don’t want to disappoint my future husband.
Unka Glen answered: That...
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How do I really know God?
followandreblog asked: Uncle, I need help! It’s about a friend’s quest to know God. She sent me a letter and part of it says, “How does one ‘know’ God? I mean I can claim all I want: I know who the guy is, he’s the Son of the Father, born through the virgin Mary, died for our sins, etc. All that, though, and I still don’t FEEL like I KNOW the guy. What...
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Telling your husband about your pornographic past
Anonymous asked: I was addicted to porn for a good six, almost seven, years of my life. I’ve grown closer to the Lord and moved past that addiction alongside Him, but my thoughts constantly move toward my future relationships. I guess my question is … how would I go about telling my future husband? My mentor told me that I should only tell him if I know that we’re in love, but...
“And if you’re crying in your bed
you know that you just want somebody’s arm...”
– Such A Let Down by Jed Brewer.
A song for folks struggling with singleness.
Download it for free here
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Sexting, vintage and otherwise
happyballoons asked: Hi Unka Glen! I’m currently in my first relationship (long distance) and my boyfriend is a responsible and faithful Christian. We are both committed to the relationship as a means to marriage, and understand that sex is meant for after marriage. I was wondering if you could give me some guidance on if and how I can show affection in a Christian relationship without...
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Real life struggles with the faith...
If you’re moving forward, really trying to live this Christian life, sooner or later you face something like one of these two questions:
agape-idealist asked: Ever since I started to get closer to God, everything fell apart. I lost all my friends, I’m constantly sad and confused PLUS I keep getting bad grades. Its been my experience that if I put effort in, I will be successful. I...
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Jesus broke up my relationship!
two-nineteen asked: Hi Unka Glen! I broke up with a boy I dated for quite awhile because I realized I wanted (and needed) a Christ-centered relationship. He is apathetic towards religion, and for some reason I thought that might change as our relationship went on. No surprise it didn’t, but that’s all in the past. That being said, he’s not over it and blames our breakup on our...
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“Glen: I’m severely married. I’m married hard with a vengeance. Jed:...”
– Say That! podcast episode 3
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This weeks topic: “Do you think it is in God’s plan for everybody to find ‘the one’ and get married?”
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You don't have to preach it, just share it.
hisquietvoice asked: How do I get the courage and desire to preach the gospel with conviction? I know this sounds stupid but until now I’ve never been able to go up to someone and tell them about the love of Christ. [edited for length]
Unka Glen answered: You mentioned “preaching” the Gospel, and I think that’s where I’d start to answer this. Far too many of us...
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Christian dating: goals not rules
Let’s face it, dating is a modern cultural phenomenon. The Bible doesn’t say anything about it, because dating as we know it today didn’t exist back then. So can we still apply the Bible to the modern cultural phenomenon of dating? You bet. But it won’t work to try and rewrite the rules of dating to make it more righteous, and that’s not how mature Christians handle...
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When sorry isn't enough
kbgrumbles asked: Hey Unka Glen! I ran into a problem the other day and wasn’t sure how to handle it. I have a good friend whose father was abusive during his childhood. He’s shared a few of his memories with me, and it breaks my heart to hear it. But I don’t know what to say. “I’m sorry” doesn’t even begin to cover it. What should I do next time?
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You can say "no" to unlicensed massage therapy
lovely-contradiction4 asked: Unka Glen, I am so confused and feel like I’m in a corner. A guy from church offered to give me a full body massage as a friend and frankly, I’m not comfortable with that. He has lots of hours in massage therapy, but missed out on the chance to get his licence. It wouldn’t be at an established place of business, and if someone heard about it in the church (where he...
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Virtual Unka Glen
Now this is creativity… This tumblrerr took clips from my posts and created a virtual dialog between us on her current dating situation…
giggle-and-swoon: He’s not asked me out on a legit date yet. Just as friends hanging out. Sooooo how do I know how I feel about him if we’ve only been in the friend area?
A true woman of God deserves, at the very least, to be asked out in a bold,...
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You are hot. Thus, you are his type
Anonymous asked: Hi Unka Glen. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, we had a conversation where he shared that his types of girls are the skinny, petite ones. While I am far from overweight, I am also not the skinny type, and I am an inch taller than him. What he said made me hate my body. Six months later I confessed to him that what he said made me feel insecure, he apologized and...
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If you can't wait for today to be over
For some people Valentine’s Day is a wonderful day full of romance and flowers and if that’s you, I’m happy for you. But I’d like to say something to everyone else…
Hey.
I know today kind of feels like a reminder that your life is missing something that you want, and that other people have. I’m sorry about that. I really am. Your day will come. I promise. If...
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Romance, Cooking, and Ninjas
The internet radio station Truth On-Air asked me to post on their blog as a guest for their “Love Month” promotion.
I thought you might like to check it out, especially all my internet nieces and nephews from the Philippines.
It’s full of stuff about romance, cooking, and ninjas.
WatchSay That! fans are speaking out, to get you subscribed, and to put the podcast at the top of the charts. Check it out, and then go get the first two episodes full of Godly wisdom and good humor for FREE by clicking RIGHT HERE!
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Dating advice... or not...
tinaille asked: Hi Unka Glen! Since you’ve been answering dating questions, can you tell me your insights about I Timothy 5:1-2 with regards to dating? what does it mean to treat someone (or be treated) with absolute purity?
Unka Glen answered: Sure thing, here are the verses you mentioned: “Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat...
“Good marriages take a lot of work. Great marriages take basically everything...”
– Glen Fitzjerrell (Unka Glen) from episode 2 of the Say That podcast
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Unka Glen Lightening Round!!!
angelagr asked: How do you love someone who wrongs you over and over again? I understand that you’re supposed to forgive those who have wronged you, but where do you draw the line?
Unka Glen answered: You don’t draw the line on forgiveness. You forgive the way you were forgiven by God— totally, completely, and unconditionally (1 John 1:9). If you love someone at all, their...
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Destiny, Hell, and Video Games
hamnchicken asked: Hi Unka! I was talking to a friend about believing in God. He admitted to me that the reason he did not believe in God was because he didn’t like the idea of thinking that he didn’t do anything himself and that everything was God’s plan. He didn’t think God should have all the credit. I didn’t really know what to say after that, and at the same...
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Turn-offs: laziness, insecurity, and self-loathing
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend has been out of work for about 4 and a half months. At first it didn’t really bother me, but lately it has. He admitted that he just doesn’t feel motivated to find one, and that he is being picky (he doesn’t want to work just anywhere due to some pride issues). He also has no education. I’m not dating him just to date, we have talked about...
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“Your behavior has no effect on God’s love. So why do you live your life as...”
– Unka Glen (unkaglen.tumblr.com)
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Slippery slopes to sin and sex
rachevz asked: Hey Unka! So I’m friends with this Christian guy, but we like each other and want to date one day, if it’s the Lord’s will. We want get to know each other a little better, but we don’t spend time alone together. We’re not physical. we have accountability partners, who have no problems with our relationship. However, a few girls at church have voiced...
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Porn and making changes
Anonymous asked: Dear Unka Glen, my boyfriend and I both have had on ongoing struggle with viewing pornography. I’ve recently stopped and committed the issue completely to God, falling onto His promises and Word whenever I feel temptation. My boyfriend, however, doesn’t seem to be trying as hard. He says it’s harder for him because he’s a man. Is it really true that boys...
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When to stop eating with Christians
cousined asked: Hey Unka. I was wondering what your take on 1 Corinthians 5:11 is. At what point does a believer fall into these categories mentioned? Thanks brotha.
Unka Glen answered: Great question, and to have a better grip on that verse, let’s look at the verses around it for context.
9 I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people , 10 not at all...
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From the friend zone, to the romance zone
jkhayz asked: Hey Unka Glen. I love your dating advice, so I’ve got a question of my own. I struggle from this disease. It’s called Chronic Little Sister Syndrome (CLSS for short). I’m a senior in high school and a pretty easy going person, but I’ve never dated. I’m really involved in the 20 somethings group at my church, and I’ve gotten really close with a...
WatchA little slice of the “Say That” Podcast. My voice is the first and last one, in between are mega-bloggers Lee Younger, then Jed Brewer.
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The guys from the Say That podcast answer a question about a girl whose parents told her that God would give her an unhappy marriage to “break her”.
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Wants, desires, and bad ideas...
borntoblossombloomtoperish asked: Unka Glen, on my down days I often struggle between, on one hand reassuring myself that all the things I want to happen will happen, and on the other hand, giving my wants completely to God. Is there a balance to this? How can I reassure myself?
Unka Glen answered: Quick story— Years ago, I’m working on the North Side of Chicago, establishing a...
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Dating... what the heck is wrong with you?
Anonymous asked: hi unka glen! i’m 20 years old (almost) and i have yet to have a relationship. i don’t know whether to take it as a sign from God that i’m just destined to be alone forever…or i’m waiting to be with that special one that he sends me…i don’t know what to do. i’m getting so antsy
Unka Glen answered: No, this is not a sign that...
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When your friends reject you
Anonymous asks: Hey Unka Glen! I’ve very recently gotten back on track with God, and I attempted to tell my friends this after they invited me to go clubbing. Although in the past I have been swayed into drinking, I’m not anymore. They got really upset and said that I wanted to “live all holy now”. I have never felt so judged by supposed friends and so misunderstood. What...
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Is everything sexual a sin?
disguisedferretlover asked: Love all the advice you give, I wish my church had someone like you when I was growing up. but, I have a question. I guess I am confused. Isn’t ANY kind of premarital sensual/sexual act a sin? Hint of sexual immorality? [edited for length]
Unka Glen answered: First let’s make sure we aren’t talking about sexual intercourse (the stuff that makes...
“Sex is good. Love is good. Marriage is good. God made them, and made them good....”
– Jed Brewer (via jedbrewer)