There’s nothing cooler than when a real man of God gives a clear vision of God’s heart on an issue that so many people have made messy and confused. Ya gotta thank God for dudes like Lee Younger!
Hey, Lee I have never in my life gone to someone for advice, so this is a little bit weird for me. I’ve always been in a Christian family, and they are hardcore believers; my sister attends bible study every chance she has, and she loves it. I’ve never felt close to Jesus but I feel like He’s the only one who could actually help me right now. I’m gay, and that makes me feel really out of place in my church. Only my best friend knows the truth about me, but I feel like I don’t want my family to.
So I Said:
I want you to forget everything you think you know about what the church feels about you or what Jesus thinks about you. For just a moment, don’t get too hung up on what people say about being gay - people in the church and people outside of the church. Just chuck it all out for a minute. Forget about the news, politics, rights and all the emotionally charged issues involved. For just a minute, I want to encourage you to clear all that stuff off the table and think about something true and beautiful:
Jesus loves you more than you could even imagine. Jesus loves you like you’re the only lovable and lovely thing in this whole universe. He loves you with a passion and exclusivity that would take your breath away if you really got a hold of it for one nano second. Jesus loves you with a ferocity and urgency that has caused Him to move Heaven and earth just to know you, come to your rescue and make you His very own best friend.
You say that only your friend knows the truth about you, but that’s not actually true. Jesus knows. He not only knows, but He knows the depths of your heart and mind in ways you don’t even know yourself. He knows you and loves you. No matter what you think you know about Him - and no matter what your experience has been like with His people, Jesus wants to hang out with you. He wants you to get to know Him. He wants to make a home inside your heart and fill it up with hope, peace and joy. He has a plan for your life that will fill you with purpose like nothing else in this world. He has a will for your life that He wants you to follow because He knows what’s best for you, like the most loving father. Does Jesus want to make changes in your life? Sure, but keep in mind that He wants to make changes in my life and everyone else’s as well; and He makes those changes in His time with tenderness and unlimited patience.
I don’t think you have to tell everyone in your life the most personal thing about you just because. Why does everyone at church or in your family need to know? It certainly shouldn’t affect the way they love you. I think this is your business. You can tell people when you are good and ready. I think you and Jesus should get together and work out the way forward. He has a will for your heart, your physical relationships and your spiritual life and the quickest route to clarity and satisfaction is to get with Him on His program and timetable.
I can tell you that in my life, He has loved me with kindness and has been good to me. He has walked me through dark and confusing situations as a Shepherd and friend. I can tell you that at times, I don’t feel like I belong in the church or anywhere else, but I always feel like I belong with Him. Sometimes it’s hard to know and walk with Jesus, but His love is worth it. The first thing is just getting to know Him. Call out to Him and tell Him you want to know Him and that you want to experience His love for you. Everything else will fall into place if you start there.