Unka Glen

Anonymous asked: What’s the difference between loving a woman and being in love with a woman?

Unka Glen answered: The Bible says there is romantic love, (which the Bible calls “eros”), and God’s love (which the Bible calls “agape”). For all too many people, when they say they’re “in love” they mean that they have eros, but not the agape. But for you, when you fall in love, you should be feeling both.

So what does it look like to have BOTH the eros AND the agape? Well…

- This kind of love will make you want to be a better man for her. You suddenly realize you have a lot of stuff that needs changing. Deep down you know she is God’s own princess. She’s human the same as you, and yet, you know she deserves better than the way you act around your friends.

- This kind of love makes you pleased to serve. It gives you joy in the face of sacrifice. Her happiness is your happiness. 

- This kind of love causes you to see her as God sees her. To see her potential in Christ, the obstacles that hold her back, and the way to help her overcome those obstacles, one at a time. To love her is to see her as God created her to be, and to honor her, and respect her, and to treat her as if all that potential has already been realized.

- This kind of love allows you to be totally hot for her in that way where you want to marry her, take her to that honeymoon bed, memorize every inch of her body, find every secret spot that makes her melt, and spoil her with pleasure until her toes curl and she remembers why she puts up with you. But this same love gives you all the strength you need to wait, and savor that waiting, knowing that the waiting is all part of making it great. …As is making up for lost time (can I get an Amen?).

- This kind of love is patient, it’s kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it’s not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. This love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 

This love never fails.